Dating for fun and partnership

Monday, April 03, 2006


March 25, 2006 - "Approaching Women: A Great Example"


"Hello suaveguru,

I just wanted to start off by saying you have very valid

points with women. I have worked at bars and restaurants

where women come in looking to hook up with men. And the

cocky-funny attitude works wonders. I'm 22 going on 23

and I have had no problem ever getting women to give me

their number. But there is one problem I do have. That is

timing "the call". When should I call? Plus I used your

"Are you single" approach with this very attractive girl.

She gave me 5 mins of her time and I found out some cool

things about her. She was very hesitant on giving me her

number, but after I sat down to talk to her, she gave me

her number. Well, I called her two days after she gave

me her number and she was on the other line. So she told

me to call her back in 15 mins. I waited 30 and she never

answered the phone. so I left a message. Should I rip up

her number and never call her again? Or should I call her

in a week? Your advise would be greatly appreciated. Plus

why would she give me her number if she planned on not

talking to me in the first place?


>MY COMMENTS: I personally think that this is one of the

funniest questions in the book. I mean, haven't you watched

"Swingers"? lol...

My rule of thumb is to wait at least one day, but not more

than a few. The real key is how OFTEN you call her, and,

more importantly, what you SAY when you call.

But let's talk about the psychology of why women give out

their phone numbers, and why I personally like to get email


You must remember that attractive women are being approached

all the time by men, in one way or another.

They have an unlimited supply of guys to choose from.

I think that a lot of women who give out their numbers, then

respond by being flaky when you call are doing something

that many of us guys wouldn't have thought of in a million


I think they're making themselves feel good.

Explained differently, I think that many women give out

their numbers are looking for the self-image-boosting

hit of power that comes from having a lot of men calling

them... men that THEY have the power to ACCEPT OR REJECT.

They can also use it to get attention from friends:

"All these guys just keep calling me! Why don't they just

leave me alone! Don't the get the hint!?"

Now, don't get me wrong. I know that this sounds a little

bit negative... and I don't mean to say that ALL women

do this, or that ALL women are bad, etc.

To me, it's just part of the real world that you need to

learn to accept and deal with.

Which leads me to why I get email addresses...

Keep in mind, I've tried a lot of different things when

it comes to curing this problem of hot-and-cold women

who act one way when you meet them, then totally

different when you call.

And what I've found is that if you get EMAILS instead,

you not only differentiate yourself, but you also

increase your chances of hearing back from her about

100%. No lie.

For some reason, email has a power that a call does not.

For more info on how to get a "Woman's email within minutes of meeting her" . Click Here. Email is also seen as lower risk by her... and it's easier to

get as well.

Try it. You'll like it.

Wednesday, March 29, 2006



Once, one of my super-scoring buddies invited me to go to a party with hm. Not
having much of a social life anyway, I accepted the invitation, and besides,
this guy REALLY knew how to get laid. I sort of looked at myself as being one of
those small sucker fish that attach themselves underneath a shark's mouth and
live off the bits the shark spits out.

Anyway, we were wandering around this huge apartment complex, looking fo the
party. We were walking down a hallway when we passed an open door, and there was
a party going on, but it was definitely NOT the party we had been invited to.
This was a formal affair; everyone was very well dressed, and my buddy and I
were both wearing jeans and scruffy tennis shoes.

Through the doorway I saw a stunning blonde in a low cut dress, surrounded by
guys trying to hit on her. My buddy saw her too, looked at me, and went right
into action. I saw him walk in the door, cut through the crowd of guys, say
something to her that I couldn't hear, and hand her a card and a pen. She wrote
something down, and out came my buddy, smiling ear to ear. He had gotten her
phone number!

I asked him what he said, and he told me, "I just walked in there, looked at
her, and said, `Excuse me. I saw you through the doorway, and unlike these
gentlemen here, I don't have time for small talk. I'd like to take you out. Can
I have your phone number?'

Now, it's not always necessary to be that direct. But it is necessary to grasp
and use the attitude my buddy had, the super-attitude which will get you laid
more than any line, trick, good looks, fancy car or fortune. The attitude is:


Do you really want to get laid with all the women you could ever possible want?
Then STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR YOURSELF! Don't make excuses for wanting to look at
a beautiful woman. If you're caught looking, and she asks what you're dong,
tell her!! Tell her you're enjoying studying just what a perfectly beautful
body she has, and to heck with her if she's too uptight to appreciate a real man
who doesn't apologize for knowing what he wants!

Stop making excuses for wanting to meet a woman! Stop making excuses forwanting
to ask a woman out, and most of all stop making excuses for wanting to FuCK the
living shit out of a woman you want! This kind of direct, powerful, go-for-it-
attitude is an incredible turn on for women that can't be beaten!

Listen! It isn't even the words you use that convey this attitude! It's our
tone of voice, your facial expressions, your posture, the speed at which you
speak, everything non-verbal about you will show this attitude far more han

This doesn't mean you have to be arrogant, or lack a sense of humor. You can be
warm and friendly at the same time you are being direct and powerful. Th key is

finding the balance. Once you do you will not be able to keep women away from

Now, it's easy to talk and tell you that you should have this attitude, but that
won't help you to actually get it.

Here's the other attitude/belief you'll want to master if you really want to be
a success at scoring with women like a madman.


I remember watching a TV show where the host was interviewing a movie
star/karate champ who shall go nameless. The host asked him what the secet of
his success was, and the karate guy looked at him in that wooden way of is and

"When I first started out competing in Karate Tournaments, I wasn't that good. I
got beat a lot, but I always learned from my mistakes. Instead of crying over my
losing, I just studied what I would have to do differently the next time and
whenever I met the same guy again or a different guy in the same situation, I
ALWAYS creamed 'em."

Look - unless you are unusually lucky, chances are you are going to make a few
mistakes as you practice the ideas in this book. And, as great as these ricks
are, they won't work every single time.
Unless you know how to learn from your mistakes and accept and occasiona loss,
you will get nowhere. The most successful guys I know at scoring all have two
great strengths: They have the first power attitude we've just looked at and
they also know how to accept getting rejected without it bothering them and they
learn from their mistakes.

The Art of Cunnilingus or How TO EAT PUSSY


This section is for men who want learn how to properly eat a woman's pussy, or who've heard that it might not be all that bad to put their face down there, and for women who want to get their man to eat them period, improvement in performance can come later.

I am not an expert. I am simply a woman who knows what she likes, and has had all too many experiences with men who didn't seem to have the vaguest idea what they were doing between her legs.

Eating a woman's pussy is about the most wonderful thing you can do for her. It makes her feel loved, admired, sexy, and of course it makes her cum like crazy. Many women prefer it to intercourse, and for most, it's the easiest way to cum with a man. You may have the littlest cock on the planet, but if you give great head, you'll be appreciated as a fabulous lover. Yes, it's that important. Besides, lots of women expect it these days so you might as well get to know what you're doing. Studies show that 90 percent of married couples under 25 give head and for couples over 50, at least 55 percent of the men are eating pussy, with 95 percent of the men and 82 percent of the women enjoying it.

Many guys seem to have a strange love/hate relationship with women's genitalia. Guys that can't wait to get their cock into one are often reluctant to put their face "down there." For every guy who says he loves to eat pussy, there's another one who's squeamish. Women know this, and it affects their ability to lie back and enjoy the experience.

This is for you gals. Before you can get him to eat pussy for the first time, you need to get him worked up about the idea, that is, get him to think about sex for a few minutes, but don't do anything to make him cum yet. He's got a sex switch in his brain that turns on when he sees a woman, especially a naked one, and turns off as soon as he cums, this is why who does what first can be very important in the beginning, less so as the two of you mature. Fortunately, it won't take much to get him to eat you the first time, just undress and ask him to, let him look at your pussy for a while, show him your clit and let him play with it, promise him a good fuck afterwards or a blowjob if you've read the second section, if he seems the least bit interested straddle his head and rub your bush over his face.

What's Down There?

This is for you guys. Most men don't really know what they've been sticking their cock into. Many women also don't appreciate what they have, and can't understand why a man would think that it was beautiful, let alone want to put his face in it.

Why would a man like to eat pussy? Most men I know who really love women and want make having sex with them a joint endeavor rather than a conquest, also like to eat pussy. They don't want to just eat her, they want to bring her to a great climax and then build her up for a fuck that neither will forget, or maybe get a good blowjob if that's what she wants to do. I think that there are two basic reasons. First, many men want to give their woman the most sexual satisfaction they can, they enjoy pleasing her and will go to great lengths to do so, the more their woman likes what they are doing to her, the harder their cocks get until sometimes they cum just from eating her. The second is the role that the mouth, tongue, taste and smell play in sex. Why do people kiss? They receive pleasure from the interaction that takes place during a kiss. The mouth, lips and tongue are some of the more erogenous zones of the body and are active rather than passive, you do something with them. You nibble on her ears, kiss and suck on her nipples, kiss her navel, why not kiss and suck on the most sexual part of her body, her pussy. The tastes and odors of the fresh secretions from a clean healthy woman's pussy are also erotic to many men. Put this all together and your mouth in her pussy is where it's at guys.

Now that you've got your woman out of the shower, on the bed, and fairly well warmed up (or she's got you there), stop and look at what you see. Leave the lights on, or get a flashlight or something, so that you can examine her carefully. Take a good look at what's between her legs. Beautiful, isn't it? There's nothing that makes a woman more unique than her pussy. I know. I've seen plenty of them. They come in all different sizes, colors and shapes; some are tucked inside like a little girl's cunnie and some have thick luscious lips that come out to greet you. Some are nested in brushes of fur and others are covered with transparent fuzz.

The first thing you see is her muff. It should be the same color as the rest of her hair but who knows these days. It has a slightly different texture than the hair on her head and can cover a large or small area but usually just up over the mons area, that fleshy mound over her pelvic bone, and down each side of her pussy to its lower end. It usually does not spread out to her thighs and has sparse growth partially onto the outer lips.

Don't worry, looking at it won't make you go blind. Nestled in the midst of her muff are the outer, or major, lips of her pussy (they are vertical on all women). They are not overly sensitive to touch on the outside (but it's a good place to start), about the same as the shaft of your cock. They extend from the upper part of the hood that covers her clit to more or less the bottom of her pussy. They're thick and luscious in the middle and thin out at each end blending into her body. Some are almost closed while others are open to varying extents, allowing the inner pleasures to peep through. They don't generally come together completely at the top, exposing the upper cone of the clitoral hood, and less so at the bottom, giving you a glimpse of the bottom of the vaginal entrance where the lower parts of the inner lips surround it.

Underneath the outer lips are the inner, or minor, lips. These are much thinner, more sensitive and fun to play with. At the top they form the cone-shaped hood that protects the sensitive clit, closing in under the clit and then coming back out to continue down to the bottom of the vaginal entrance. They tend to blossom out between the outer lips, especially near the bottom.

Between the underside of the clit and the bottom of the vaginal opening lies the vestibule, your new playground. Although the clit's hood is a part of the inner lips, they appear to only cover the vestibule. The urethra and vagina open into the vestibule. Excluding the obvious first place role of the clit, it's the vestibule and the entrance to the vagina where a lot of the action takes place.

I've saved the best for last, the clitoris or clit, accent on the first syllable. Most of you know it, but for those who don't, it's THE woman's sex organ, period. It may feel great to be fucked vaginally or otherwise, but if the stimulation isn't right there, on the clit, you're ignoring the place that's going to make her cum, and presumably that's why you're reading this, right? It's right there at the top juncture of her inner lips, a small knob of pink flesh. This is where it's at boys, and don't forget it. Almost any licking and sucking of the labia or vaginal entrance are going to feel just dandy; just remember that's pleasurable, teasing, not the main event. I can't tell you how many guys have thrust their tongues up my cunt thinking that that was going to make me cum. They were wrong. Of course, with a little manual stimulation . . . but I'm getting ahead of myself.

Women feel differently about how much direct stimulation they can take on their clit. Some women will adore it if you suck hard on their exposed clits, others will shriek in pain. You may encounter a woman who is completely unable to take direct stimulation of her clit; the goal is still the same, but you'll have to stimulate it indirectly, such as through her labia. IMPORTANT NOTE: Often, what is unacceptably rough at first, may be fine after she's very excited. The fact is, most women really need a good bit of stimulation before a targeted attack on their clit, but once they're ready, that's where you want to devote your attention.

Back off for now, rest your head on her thigh and just admire the view. Learn to appreciate your woman's unique qualities and tell her what makes her special. Describe what you see, in poets' words if you can, but in any way you can as long as it's with love and admiration.

Tuesday, March 28, 2006


General Introduction

People have been using their mouths to stimulate each other sexually for about as long as there have been people. How about kissing each other? Men have been kissing women on their necks, ears, breasts, backs, thighs, and any where else they can think of that'll arouse them sexually ever since they found out it works. It didn't take long for some enterprising man to find out that kissing a woman's vulva worked, did it ever. The Latin word cunnilingus was coined to describe licking the vulva.

Men were not alone in searching for ways to arouse the opposite sex. Some equally enterprising woman found out that men liked for her to suck their penis, it worked just as well. The Latin word fellatio was coined to describe sucking the penis.

Let's define and use the more common words to describe men and women's genitalia and the various sexual acts. Pinus, cock; vulva, pussy; vagina, cunt; Coitus, fuck; cunnilingus, eating pussy; fellatio, sucking cock, blowjob; performing cunnilingus or fellatio, giving head; ejaculate, cum or shoot his load; orgasm, cum or climax; pubic hair, women muff or bush, men bush.

Many men and women, today probably most, use some form of oral massage or kissing of the sex organs as a normal part of foreplay to warm up their partners prior to fucking. They probably don't think of that as "giving head," and I would agree that it's not. It's simply a part of the foreplay used to prepare each other for fucking and hopefully achieving a sexual climax.

Giving head, on the other hand, is used by one to bring the other to climax by use of, primarily, the mouth and tongue. For those couples who develop the required skills and self restraint, both can cum together using the 69 position. For me, although the sensations of a man's cock thrusting in my cunt are great and I do love a good fuck, cuming together during 69 is more emotionally satisfying than cuming together by fucking.

You have to develop an understanding of the intimate feelings and emotions that occur while you're performing oral sex and during a climax, and how to respond to those feelings. Giving head is much more intimate than fucking and, if approached with the right attitude, can be more emotionally satisfying. Both the man and woman need to become familiar with what the other's emotional needs are, not just what it takes to make each other cum.

Only in the movies does a man grab a woman and say, take your clothes off, I want to fuck, or vise-versa. You have to pick a time and place other than the kitchen where the baby has just thrown a bowl of food all over your wife, although it might be a welcome distraction right abought then. Giving head requires at least as much emotional preparation as fucking. For the subject to even come up, one partner has to have built up the desire. That partner then has to build up the desire in the other partner.

Getting the other to let you bring them to orgasm is generally the easiest. If you just want to eat her pussy or she just wants to suck your cock, then all that's required is a willingness to submit, and this is important, with the expectation of achieving orgasm. Getting the other to bring you to orgasm requires the art of gentle persuasion. If you just want her to suck your cock or she just wants' you to eat her pussy, a slightly different situation exists. A woman can probably convince a man to eat her pussy without much effort. All that's generally required is for him to be in a reasonably good mood. If he just wants her to suck his cock, and she wasn't already thinking about sex, then he's going to have to get her in the proper mood first.

You'll find out that no matter who starts, the other will probably end up getting head also, either that or you'll end up fucking. Given this inevitable result, it's nice if both of you can build each other up first. Once you're both ready, he should give her head first, or you should use 69. A man comes down from his climax too quickly, and takes too long to build back up sufficiently to move right into doing a good job of eating pussy, unless he had that on his mind from the beginning.

It's fairly easy for a man to learn to do a good job of eating a woman's pussy. If he's sensitive, gentle and pays attention to what's in this book, she'll love it.

About the only problem the uninitiated man has is over the perceived bad smell and taste of a woman's secretions. Many men, and women, think that the tastes and odors associated with a woman's pussy are offensive. This isn't so, the natural fragrance and taste of the fresh secretions from a clean healthy woman are usually beautiful and erotic to a man. This question needs to be settled at the very beginning. A couple should take turns tasting and smelling her pussy's natural fluids when she's fresh and clean. Once a man tries it, the taste and smell of a woman's sex will excite him and he'll look forward to it. When a man fingers a woman and then smells, licks, sucks the juice off his finger and sighs as if in heaven, she'll forget this problem and he can dive right in.

It's more difficult for a woman to become a good cock-sucker, but the rewards can be worth the effort. There are three basic problems that confront a woman, the first two are, how much of his cock should she take into her mouth, and what does she do with his cum. The answers to the first two are, all of it, and swallow it. The third problem is, how does she get all of that cock in her mouth. The answer to the third is in the following lessons.

As you'll see later, the shaft of a man's cock isn't overly sensitive to touch on any particular spot, but it does respond to pressure, and there are a lot of nerve endings when you include all of it. Don't forget that much of the pleasure we derive from sex is in the mind, it's psychological, emotional. When a man feels a woman's warm soft mouth and tongue giving his cock a workout, feels her trying to suck his balls out through it, sees her look up at him as her lips slide down over it until her face is buried in his bush, the overall feeling is hard to describe. When you take all of this into account, she should take all of his cock into her mouth and throat at appropriate times while she's giving head.

It's not a big deal with most men if a women doesn't want to swallow his cum, he just doesn't want her to take his cock out of her mouth until he's finished cuming. When he's fucking you, you feel that you're drawing him into yourself when you cum, part of his sexual makeup is a mirror image of yours, he feels that he's being drawn into you when he cums. He needs for you to keep his cock in your mouth, continuing to increase the intensity of your fellatio, until he cums and his climax lets down. It's a real letdown for him if you take his cock out of your warm soft mouth just as he's reaching the climax that you've both worked so hard for and jack him off into a wet towel.

I said that the rewards can be worth the effort. Lying there with a man's throbbing cock buried deep in your throat and your face buried in his bush can feel almost as good as having it in your cunt, and a lot more intimate. Feeling a man cum in her mouth while she carries him through the end of his orgasm and then swallowing it after he's finished becomes a sensual thing for a woman, part of her natural desire to participate in his orgasm to the fullest extent, drawing his love juices into her as he climaxes. You'll find out that taking his cum into your mouth and swallowing it can be an intensely intimate act for both, it can be a significant symbolic gesture of love.

Good sex isn't just the pleasure of reaching a climax, it's when you share each other's climax, it's when a woman's efforts to bring her man to climax excite her to the point where she could almost cum, sometimes his climax drives her over the top. It's the same for the man. When a man is passionately eating out a woman's pussy, he's got a hard-on that won't quit. He wants to bury his face in her muff and thrust his tongue into her cunt, join with her body. It's not unusual for a man to get so worked up emotionally while he's eating a woman's pussy that he cums while he's doing it, and none of his sex organs are involved except his mind.

Sex should not be all oral. When the opportunity presents itself, like when you're passionately eating her out, she's starting on her second orgasm and is really hot, you've got a hard-on that just won't quit and she's lying at the edge of the bed with you between her legs. You look down and see that if you just got up on your knees your cock would find itself in her cunt, go ahead and shove it in there and give each other a good fuck. Some women say that they feel lonesome when they're receiving head, they want to be held and kissed. This is why moving from eating her pussy smoothly into fucking her can be very satisfying, it's also a good reason for 69.

Sunday, March 26, 2006



Ever wonder what it takes to hit all the right notes with women? Gone are the days when cheesy come-ons and buying drinks ruled the social scene. You have to give women more, and while good looks help, you need the right set of personality traits -- namely charisma, good manners and a great sense of humor -- to pique their interest.

Here are the top 10 ways you can approach a woman and engage in stimulating conversation without the fear of an adverse reaction on her part.

Number 10

Compare her to artTell her that her flowing hair is like the lines of a famous painting. But don't get too technical: Comparing her to works from Picasso's "cubism" phase may achieve less-than-desirable results.
Aside from being both clever and original, an artistic comparison suggests that you're an intellectual, have a profound interest in something other than football, and are not afraid to show off your softer side.

Number 9

Look at her seductivelyOtherwise known as an "eye smile," a provocative glance is more than just a regular smile in that you also communicate your feelings non-verbally. It can take the place of a thousand pickup lines and is likely a safer bet. After all, you can hardly come on too strong with a look and she's less likely to misread your signals.

Number 8

Give her an original complimentThe trick here is to not to make any obvious observations (the old, "that sweater looks great on you" line is getting predictable).
If she's really attractive, chances are she's heard all the old clich├ęs, so instead, catch her off guard and say something nice about her shoulders (yes, her shoulders). You can also try to speak her language and talk about her whole outfit without sounding too effeminate, or try guessing what perfume she's wearing. But be sure you know your perfumes, or this tactic may backfire.

Number 7

Pay attention to detail Take a mental note of everything she's wearing, from her earrings to her shoes, and everything in between. This will prove to be especially rewarding in the future. She'll be so touched that you actually remembered every little detail, she's bound to feel exceptional.

Number 6

Give her spaceIf she seems reluctant to hand out her home number, don't try to force it out of her (even if things went smoothly up to that point). She may want to take things especially slow, or may not even be interested. Mention that you wouldn't mind calling her once in a while and let her take it from there. Part of the flirting process involves giving women some breathing room, so don't cling to her the whole night either.

Number 5

Show off your vocabularyIn other words, flatter her with your vast knowledge of the English language. Show her that you're accustomed to such literary greats as Shakespeare and Chekhov, and not just Marvel comics.
Articulating yourself allows her to see you in a more profound light. If your vocabulary is truly limited, just look up a few interesting words and use them accordingly. The trick is to use words that are clever enough to impress but not so intricate that she'll know you're trying too hard. And, above all, avoid words that you don't know the meanings of, in case she asks (or worse, you use them in the wrong context).

Number 4

Make her laughHave a few original jokes on hand that are both harmless and can be universally appreciated, like making fun of the in-laws. Or, you can simply play off your surroundings in order to establish a casual, friendly atmosphere between the two of you (relating an ironic situation to a Seinfeld episode has been proven to work, if the setting is right).
Getting a few chuckles out of her will make her feel comfortable and chances are you'll develop a friendship more quickly (which may or may not lead to romance...).

Number 3

Don't allude to sexYou don't want to imply that you're only cozying up to her for one reason. Sit back, relax, and take the time to get to know her as a person, not just as another entry in your little black book.
If any sex talk does come up however, make sure she's the one who initiated it.

Number 2

Ask open-ended questionsGet her to open up about things that would make anyone happy, like vacations, shopping, or favorite books and authors.
The logic is quite simple: by putting her in a blissful state, emotionally and mentally, her reception toward you will be much warmer and friendlier. You immediately get on her good side, which makes the outlook on a budding relationship that much brighter.

Number 1

Make her feel beautiful and uniqueGive her the impression that she's one of a kind and truly remarkable (and she may very well be), and you'll forever be in her good graces. Go ahead and tell her she's flat-out hot; this is one time you can assure you won't end up with your foot in your mouth.
To seal the deal, don't get distracted and start checking out the newest arrivals at whatever bar or restaurant you two are in. Making her feel special involves ignoring everyone else in the room.
look who's talkingNow get out there and flirt, there are women who are waiting for you to talk to them.

Safe Dating Tips


Always trust your instinct, after all it has got you this far in life already.

Take your time and view plenty of personal ads first.

Do not publish your phone number or email address in personal ads.

Don't take everything at face value.

Do ask lots of questions when chatting.

Ensure you feel comfortable at all times whoever you are chatting with.

If someone is abusive to you, block them straight away.

Don't provide your home or work address to anyone you have not met.

Before agreeing to a date, check that you know as much as possible

Don't allow yourself to be talked into anything, whatsoever! You are the one in charge.

Also consider the following:
Take your time to get to know someone. Don't be rushed
A patient person will be happy to wait until you are ready to meet
Make sure you see plenty of photos if possible of the person you make friends with
Ask your date to leave a message in your voicemail box before hand if possible
Chat on the phone for a while before arranging a date, get to know each other
Always meet in a public place that is well known and convenient to you
Always tell a good friend where you are going, and who you are meeting
If possible phone your friend during the date to confirm all is fine
And perhaps consider these points too:
Always carry a cellular phone on a date if you have one
Lunchtimes are good for dating, convenient, and they have a time limit
Always make your own travel arrangements on a date initially
Do not accept a lift home on the first date or reveal your address
If travelling far, organize your own accommodation and confirm it
Ensure you have as much information about your date as possible
Keep your first date to a time limit so that you have an "exit" point
Don't feel you owe it to someone to meet them, you do not!
When we think of safe dating by sets of rules like this it can all get pretty silly and scary but the fact is that we are introducing ourselves to strangers without the company of friends. It will always be a wise choice to have a friend close by even if they are sitting at a nearby table. But whatever you decide is best for you, keep your wits about you and enjoy your date !!